Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism

“Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it’s not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don’t value themselves … Continue reading "Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism"

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The Roots of Self Blame and Blame Sharing

I asked myself if I needed to live in survivor mode anymore; did I still need those coping methods; were they still serving me? Was exactly was this “victim mentality” ~ how did it get there in the first place and did it still assist me or was it in my way? And perhaps the most important question of all; Is it true that I share in the blame for any of the neglect, abuse, disregard, failure to protect and mistreatment that I had been subjected to as a child.

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How Children Become the Black Sheep of the Family

I adopted the guilt and shame as my own because I was living in the fog of someone else’s accusations and judgements about me and the actual truth got lost in that fog. The real truth took a back seat to the fabricated truth “they” told and not only to ME but to all those that had been “warned” about me way before I ever considered exposing the truth or considered how children come to be regarded as “the black sheep of the family”. Being groomed this way is very much like being framed.

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The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father

I have tried to talk to my father about the problems with our relationship since my first child was born over 20 years ago and although he pretends to listen to me, he never listens to me. I know this because he never tries to change anything about it. My father is emotionally unavailable. Not … Continue reading "The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father"

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‘Make better Choices’ and other Directionless Directives

This week I keep running across sayings, posters and quotes that I find frustrating because they are all sayings and directives that I believed in and strived towards for so many years. The problem was that in reality I was spinning my wheels and not really making any progress with moving forward and away from … Continue reading "‘Make better Choices’ and other Directionless Directives"

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