Brainwashing in Dysfunctional Family Systems and that deep down feeling of Unworthiness

Every so often I get a comment that I just have to share with everyone because it is so full of the truth that can help so many others. This is one such time! This comment from Doren came in on my article “Survival Mode and an Alternate view of Narcissism.” Doren has given me … Continue reading "Brainwashing in Dysfunctional Family Systems and that deep down feeling of Unworthiness"

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Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System

I decided to do a search on Google using the key words “belief system” and one of the first things that came up was the instruction to “challenge your belief system” (not much instruction on “how to do the how”) But one of the suggestions on challenging your belief system struck me as odd; it … Continue reading "Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System"

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Understanding Narcissism and the root of Abusive Behaviour

Why was my mother so self centered? Why was everything about her? Why did she have so much depression? Why did she spend money on herself and leave me fending for myself? Why did she humiliate me in public? What is wrong with me? And at the bottom of all those unspoken questions, I thought it was because something was wrong or lacking in me; that I was a big disappointment and that if I was a better daughter, then she would not have to be selfish with her love. I tried to find the way to “deserve her love.”

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Self Acknowledgment ~ IS IT A SIN?

In honour of the Canadian Thanksgiving today I am writing about the importance of self acknowledgement and specifically my ability to be grateful (in public) for my wins and my accomplishments. I sometimes get email either asking me “why” I brag about accomplishments or reprimanding me about posting my achievements on my face book pages. … Continue reading "Self Acknowledgment ~ IS IT A SIN?"

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Psychological, Physical, and Sexual Abuse WHY Questions

Sometimes we get stuck on the “why’s” and the why questions. We can talk endlessly about what happened, we can realize that it was not our fault, we can face the pain of having been devalued, used, unprotected, powerless and disregarded, but the why questions still remain. ~Why did my mother seem to take pleasure … Continue reading "Psychological, Physical, and Sexual Abuse WHY Questions"

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