The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply

Today I was thinking about how many emails I get from people who sincerely want to find validation. Unfortunately most of them want validation from the people who invalidated them in the first place.  I am always thinking about ways to communicate WHY hurt people seem to think that if the people who invalidated in … Continue reading "The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply"

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Permission to Live; Busting through Beliefs and Survival Systems

I wondered “how I should feel” instead of having feelings. It was like I had to have the “right” to have my own feelings. I was not given permission to feel. “I am scared”, was met with “don’t be silly, there is nothing to be scared of.” “That hurts” was met with “no it doesn’t” and when I think about it today, how did someone else KNOW if something hurt me or not? How many times do kids get slapped when they yell “OW”? How validating is that?

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Negative Belief Systems about Weight and Body Part two

there is no perfect path on this journey WHY did I want someone else to be fat?  Where did a thought like that come from in the first place? And looking deeper into the answers to those questions was where the bigger secrets and hidden answers were found. This post is continued from “Survival Methods … Continue reading "Negative Belief Systems about Weight and Body Part two"

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