Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem

  “When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage. Over time, this type of abuse eats away at your self-confidence and sense of self-worth, undermining any … Continue reading "Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem"

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Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann

I am excited to welcome my friend and fellow truth seeker, Pam Witzemann back to Emerging from Broken.  Pam busts through the fog with this two part article about living under constant judgment and disapproval. Pam is a regular participant in almost all the discussions here in EFB and has her own blog; “Boomer Back-beat … Continue reading "Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann"

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Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism

“Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it’s not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don’t value themselves … Continue reading "Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism"

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On How to Become Your Own Best Friend

It was easy for me to reject myself the way that I had been rejected especially when it came to self-love. It was almost automatic for me to reject any affirmations that I tried to apply to myself about being worthy since I had never been approved of or validated before and since I believed that the failure was mine. I simply didn’t believe myself when I affirmed myself until I found out why I saw myself the way that I did in the first place.

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People who try to Silence Victims Interfere with Emotional Healing

So many survivors of abuse believe that people who don’t understand have never “been there themselves” but in actuality, they don’t want to understand it because they don’t want to face the truth about either the way they were raised and or because they want the same silence and respect from their own children that was demanded of them by their parents. That is the cycle of abuse and how it works.

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‘Make better Choices’ and other Directionless Directives

This week I keep running across sayings, posters and quotes that I find frustrating because they are all sayings and directives that I believed in and strived towards for so many years. The problem was that in reality I was spinning my wheels and not really making any progress with moving forward and away from … Continue reading "‘Make better Choices’ and other Directionless Directives"

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A Poem about Self Love, Self Talk and Reconnection with Self by Karenina

I have had great responses in the past when I have shared poetry! This poem was sent to me from Karenina in response to my article about “self talk and self care”.  While reading this poem it really helped me to understand and to keep in mind that Karenina is speaking to herself. Her older … Continue reading "A Poem about Self Love, Self Talk and Reconnection with Self by Karenina"

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