Punishment as a Control Tactic in Abusive Family Systems

  Happy New Year! Welcome to a new year Emerging from Broken! I talk about the belief system and how it is developed and how we are brainwashed into believing that the problem is us in the first place. There are specific abuse tactics that are used to cement this brainwashing which cause the ‘fear … Continue reading "Punishment as a Control Tactic in Abusive Family Systems"

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How Children Become the Black Sheep of the Family

I adopted the guilt and shame as my own because I was living in the fog of someone else’s accusations and judgements about me and the actual truth got lost in that fog. The real truth took a back seat to the fabricated truth “they” told and not only to ME but to all those that had been “warned” about me way before I ever considered exposing the truth or considered how children come to be regarded as “the black sheep of the family”. Being groomed this way is very much like being framed.

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The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply

Today I was thinking about how many emails I get from people who sincerely want to find validation. Unfortunately most of them want validation from the people who invalidated them in the first place.  I am always thinking about ways to communicate WHY hurt people seem to think that if the people who invalidated in … Continue reading "The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply"

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Adult Victims of Child Abuse Still Need to be Heard

I found out that millions of people struggling with depression, addictions, post traumatic stress, self harm issues, dissociative identity disorder and many many other issues also struggle with this same confusion around the dysfunctional family system and the accepted protection and “respect” for the “authority” who is so often the perpetrator of abuse and emotional mistreatment instead of regard for the child victim

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Emotional Healing and the Causes of Low Self Esteem

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding” Khalil Gibran I struggled and fought for some sort of “place” in the world for a very long time before I began to find my way out of that darkness that I talked about in my last post.  I felt as though I … Continue reading "Emotional Healing and the Causes of Low Self Esteem"

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How Blame, Guilt and Shame get Misapplied to Self

The belief system that I am constantly speaking of does not form all at once or form completely from one event. This is where it gets complicated. Other events factor into it, some of them normal healthy childhood events that may have familiar feelings attached to them, and it is really easy to lump them … Continue reading "How Blame, Guilt and Shame get Misapplied to Self"

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