People who try to Silence Victims Interfere with Emotional Healing

So many survivors of abuse believe that people who don’t understand have never “been there themselves” but in actuality, they don’t want to understand it because they don’t want to face the truth about either the way they were raised and or because they want the same silence and respect from their own children that was demanded of them by their parents. That is the cycle of abuse and how it works.

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To Heal from Emotional Damage Know what the Damage Was

The biggest obstacles in my way were avoiding looking at how I used by others, how I was objectified and not considered to be equally human, and how I was failed by others. By avoiding looking at the truth about that, I was able to excuse the damage they caused. I excused them because I had to. As a child, survival is of the utmost importance and if we start complaining about the people who are failing us, but are also in charge of our welfare, it is a pretty sure fact that we are not going to survive.

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Evil Manipulative People and Emotional Damage

I had to learn to stop trying to understand evil manipulative people in favour of understanding what happened to me. It seemed easier to concentrate on the WHY questions about them, but I had to realize and acknowledge the damage and how it manifested in my belief system, so that I could overcome it. I had to do the opposite of what those pathetic adults did to me. I had to learn to consider myself.

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The Truth about Abuse and Reconnecting to Myself

I’m Innocent “It takes time to persuade men to do even what is for their own good.” Thomas Jefferson I was dissociated. I grew up having dissociative identity disorder which means that I effectively disconnected from myself and from the events that happened to me. That is what dissociative identity disorder is. That was how … Continue reading "The Truth about Abuse and Reconnecting to Myself"

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Re-Parenting, Dissociation and the Desire to Escape

As many of you know, I’ve recovered from dissociative identity disorder and I find it to be a strange feeling to be aware of wanting to dissociate, when for so many years, it was habitual ~ I just did it. Continuing with some of the conversation from the last post, see “Dissociative Identity ~ the … Continue reading "Re-Parenting, Dissociation and the Desire to Escape"

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