How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships

I used to have a pattern (like a default way of responding) where I would give a lot more attention to the people who ‘fought me’ and told me I was wrong, compared to the way that I responded to people who agreed with me and validated my thoughts. I noticed that I actually tried … Continue reading "How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships"

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Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann

I am excited to welcome my friend and fellow truth seeker, Pam Witzemann back to Emerging from Broken.  Pam busts through the fog with this two part article about living under constant judgment and disapproval. Pam is a regular participant in almost all the discussions here in EFB and has her own blog; “Boomer Back-beat … Continue reading "Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann"

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Self Care and Nurturing ~ What is Your Self Talk Like?

How do you talk to yourself? Are you loving and patient with yourself or are you the evil boss in your own life? Are you understanding and nurturing towards yourself or are you constantly nagging and reprimanding? When you think about re-parenting yourself, do you think about the kind of parent that you would have … Continue reading "Self Care and Nurturing ~ What is Your Self Talk Like?"

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Self Esteem ~ How did YOU Learn YOUR Importance?

Eventually the child is expected to have self esteem and if they don’t there are a whole new set of labels assigned to them. BUT where do they get the self esteem and self value from in the first place? And if the adults in their lives fail to instill that sense of value in a childs life HOW does a grown up child change that misunderstanding? I tried affirmations and positive self talk for YEARS, without success until I discovered the foundation of my self esteem, and changed the lies that lived there.

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Loneliness in Recovery and Emotional Healing

This also includes psychological abuse such as neglect and or verbal abuse; physical abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual abuse or any other kind of devaluing treatment. And looking at the roots of all this stuff was not about what “they did” or what I was taught they had a “right” to do either. This was not about blame, this was about MY FEELINGS. Realizing now I felt about certain events, validating and owning those feelings and emotions where they had not been validated in the past.

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