Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift

    The Ghost of Dysfunctional Christmas Past ~ Part 2 How come I could NEVER find the right gift for my Mother? I never seemed to be able to make her happy. My Christmas gifts  as well as any other gifts I found for her never had the desired effect one wants when giving … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift"

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Dysfunctional Extended Family ~ The Mean Aunt that I Loved

My Aunt would often ignore me and shoot me dirty looks, as though my very existence was in her way. She gossiped and lied about me to the rest of the family. Living all my life in an “obligation system of love” I had to be grateful that she was allowing me to live with her. I had already been groomed to just be quiet and put up with it. Compliance is the dysfunctional family way.

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Emotionally Abusive Statements Designed to Control

  Continuing from part one “Emotional Healing by Understanding Psychological Abuse” I talked about how Psychological Abusers misuse their power in order to control and abuse others. In this post I continue with some of the statements that emotionally abusive controlling people make to create fear, confusion and the inability to think, and to force … Continue reading "Emotionally Abusive Statements Designed to Control"

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Love, Respect, Relationship and Equality ~ Is Self Help Selfish?

When I reach out my hand to yours, what do I have to offer you but my own experience, strength and hope? Sometimes I go on rants. Everyone who knows me well enough knows this truth about me. I like to go on regarding what I feel strongly about, backing it up with all sorts … Continue reading "Love, Respect, Relationship and Equality ~ Is Self Help Selfish?"

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Freedom and Self Worth ~ More on Family Dysfunction

I got a lot of emails and private messages about my last blog post “The longing for Family, Love and Self Love” some of our readers misunderstood me, and offered comfort and even therapy. I think the title was misleading. I want to (hopefully) clarify a few things. I am not writing these blog posts … Continue reading "Freedom and Self Worth ~ More on Family Dysfunction"

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