The Day I got Tired of Being the Last Person that Mattered

Abusers will point at minor issues going down trails leading nowhere designed to confuse the situation in order to discredit you along the way enabling them to be right and to defend their actions and position of power and entitlement.” Darlene Ouimet The final straw is rarely the biggest issue and although the issue that … Continue reading "The Day I got Tired of Being the Last Person that Mattered"

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Do my Parents Have a Right to see My Children if They Don’t Love Me?

Why do we have to ask ourselves this question in the first place? If we were in loving relationship with our parents, we would not question whether or not it is a good idea to let our kids hang out with our parents. This article includes 5 questions you can ask yourself to help you bust through the fog and assist you in the decision making process.

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Narcissism vs. Narcissistic re Mother Daughter Relationship Problems

Narcissism vs. Narcissistic in Mother Daughter Relationship Problems Someone on the EFB facebook page wrote (in a comment to someone else) that I say that my mother is a narcissist and that she was mentally ill. I have never actually said that. I have said that my mother has narcissistic tendencies. I don’t actually think that … Continue reading "Narcissism vs. Narcissistic re Mother Daughter Relationship Problems"

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Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism

“Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it’s not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don’t value themselves … Continue reading "Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism"

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Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift

    The Ghost of Dysfunctional Christmas Past ~ Part 2 How come I could NEVER find the right gift for my Mother? I never seemed to be able to make her happy. My Christmas gifts  as well as any other gifts I found for her never had the desired effect one wants when giving … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift"

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Understanding Narcissism and the root of Abusive Behaviour

Why was my mother so self centered? Why was everything about her? Why did she have so much depression? Why did she spend money on herself and leave me fending for myself? Why did she humiliate me in public? What is wrong with me? And at the bottom of all those unspoken questions, I thought it was because something was wrong or lacking in me; that I was a big disappointment and that if I was a better daughter, then she would not have to be selfish with her love. I tried to find the way to “deserve her love.”

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