The Truth about Being Told to Get Over it and Let it Go

How many times have you heard the instruction “Just Let It Go”? How many times have you personally been commanded to “let it go and move on”? How many ways is that statement communicated to people who are simply trying to justify their pain? How many insensitive people tell hurt people to “forgive and forget” … Continue reading "The Truth about Being Told to Get Over it and Let it Go"

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Why People Discount the (Adult) Child and Defend the Abuser

“They say “But she is your Mother!” and I respond “Yes, and I am her Daughter”.  Darlene Ouimet I have found so much freedom in realizing that I don’t have to explain or justify my decision to draw boundaries with my parents or with anyone else, to anyone. I don’t have to help people ‘understand … Continue reading "Why People Discount the (Adult) Child and Defend the Abuser"

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Overcoming that Nasty Self Blame from Dysfunctional Relationships

I was taught that I can change my thinking by practicing a new thought or belief over and over again, (positive affirmations or positive thinking) the truth was that until I found the original false belief and dispelled it, the original belief was there underneath whatever new thought I was trying to implement. Furthermore the original belief was still my default mode. So until I found the original belief, where it came from and what was untrue about it so that I could change it to the truth, I could not find the freedom and wholeness that I have now. All the “positive thinking” in the world did not change my “default mode”.

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