We are Taught Don’t Get Raped instead of Don’t Rape

We live in a society that teaches “don’t get raped” instead of “don’t rape”. And we wonder why we are so filled with guilt and shame when we get raped. We mistakenly believe that we somehow didn’t prevent ourselves from getting raped. It's as though the weight of the crime should be shared between the victim and the perpetrator or even worse that the weight of the crime rests mostly on the victim.

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Sexualized at a Young Age~ my Mother my Teacher

I have been writing about the belief system and how it develops; the ways that we view the world and ourselves according to the teachings that we receive from our parents, teachers, media and society in general. Today I continue with a more personal account of behaviour that was modeled for me by my mother. … Continue reading "Sexualized at a Young Age~ my Mother my Teacher"

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Learning to Accept Blame ~ False Teaching

I’ve been thinking about the messages we grow up with. Messages that are verbal, but are delivered like a warning. Oh you know the messages; our parents shake their heads in wonder and disappointment about the youth in our society. Sitting around the dinner table talking about girls that wear certain types of clothing, and calling them … Continue reading "Learning to Accept Blame ~ False Teaching"

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