The Roots of Self Blame and Blame Sharing

I asked myself if I needed to live in survivor mode anymore; did I still need those coping methods; were they still serving me? Was exactly was this “victim mentality” ~ how did it get there in the first place and did it still assist me or was it in my way? And perhaps the most important question of all; Is it true that I share in the blame for any of the neglect, abuse, disregard, failure to protect and mistreatment that I had been subjected to as a child.

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How Children Become the Black Sheep of the Family

I adopted the guilt and shame as my own because I was living in the fog of someone else’s accusations and judgements about me and the actual truth got lost in that fog. The real truth took a back seat to the fabricated truth “they” told and not only to ME but to all those that had been “warned” about me way before I ever considered exposing the truth or considered how children come to be regarded as “the black sheep of the family”. Being groomed this way is very much like being framed.

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The Motivation Behind Freedom ROCKS by Mimi

Freedom ROCKS Our survivor and EFB global community event “Freedom ROCKS” will this coming weekend on May 12th and 13th.  Today I am happy to have Mimi share her story about what Freedom ROCKS represents to her. I hope you will consider sharing this no cost virtual event with others. For information on how you … Continue reading "The Motivation Behind Freedom ROCKS by Mimi"

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Betrayal and reflections of Betrayal by Shanyn Silinski

I look up, and tell them I’m going to try. I’m told, “do it our way or you’ll fail” Failure is assured because I’m not trying and failing their way. The risk of success without them is terrifying. Death in this pool, with them not reaching further to get me, them not trying to pull me out, seems to be the only option. I look at the cave and determine that it can’t be worse than death here.

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