Shifting My Thinking on the Journey to Overcoming Emotional Damage

I had to learn to shift my thinking in this process of overcoming the damage caused by emotional abuse. There were a few rather large shifts that I had to make in order to make progress and there was a process to shifting my thinking! It didn’t just happen overnight.  Instead of trying to understand … Continue reading "Shifting My Thinking on the Journey to Overcoming Emotional Damage"

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How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships

I used to have a pattern (like a default way of responding) where I would give a lot more attention to the people who ‘fought me’ and told me I was wrong, compared to the way that I responded to people who agreed with me and validated my thoughts. I noticed that I actually tried … Continue reading "How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships"

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The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply

Today I was thinking about how many emails I get from people who sincerely want to find validation. Unfortunately most of them want validation from the people who invalidated them in the first place.  I am always thinking about ways to communicate WHY hurt people seem to think that if the people who invalidated in … Continue reading "The Fear of Good-bye if You Don’t Comply"

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Rebuilding my Relationship with Me ~ Recovering from Dysfunctional

emotional healing from dysfunctional family Sometimes I feel as though I can never go back far enough in order to tell you how I got myself out of the emotional mess that I was in. Today I have been thinking about some of the questions that I began to ask myself in the process of … Continue reading "Rebuilding my Relationship with Me ~ Recovering from Dysfunctional"

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