Smile ~ An Example of Belief System Formation

Hearing this stuff made things far worse for me. Hearing their judgments increased my fear of being rejected and of being thrown away. Hearing this stuff confirmed that something WAS wrong with me, (just as I already suspected) and that I wasn’t good enough or worthy enough. If only I could just pretend to be happy and remember to smile. I couldn’t force myself to smile and that make me feel like a failure. My belief system was well on the way to cementing the self blame.

Read More

Mom and Grandma had a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship

From Surviving to Thriving Through  the comments discussion on my recent post “My Value and Learning to Love MY Self” here on Emerging from Broken, Lynda recently asked me the following question and since it is such a popular question I thought I would answer it in a post all its own.  Lynda says: Darlene, … Continue reading "Mom and Grandma had a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship"

Read More

Why Me? Wrong Answers to Abuse Recovery Questions

Why Me? I read the following quote on twitter and it really bugged me: If a person who went through domestic violence asks you “Why me?” then answer; “you’ve been put on this Earth to help others who went through the same thing.” I think not. This ticks me off because I used to believe … Continue reading "Why Me? Wrong Answers to Abuse Recovery Questions"

Read More

I’m having a Blog Party! Glad You Could Come!

I do this work because I have a passion for planting the seeds of hope and spreading encouragement for healing and recovery where there has been a history of depression, feelings of unworthiness, psychological abuse, child abuse, sexual abuse, low self esteem, addictions, eating disorders and all the other types of struggles that so many … Continue reading "I’m having a Blog Party! Glad You Could Come!"

Read More