The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father

I have tried to talk to my father about the problems with our relationship since my first child was born over 20 years ago and although he pretends to listen to me, he never listens to me. I know this because he never tries to change anything about it. My father is emotionally unavailable. Not … Continue reading "The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father"

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The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day

    I have three amazing and wonderful children. They were all under the age of 12 when I started this specific type of emotional healing journey that I write about here in Emerging from Broken.  I have worked at being close to my children. I decided when each of them were born that I … Continue reading "The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day"

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Understanding Narcissism and the root of Abusive Behaviour

Why was my mother so self centered? Why was everything about her? Why did she have so much depression? Why did she spend money on herself and leave me fending for myself? Why did she humiliate me in public? What is wrong with me? And at the bottom of all those unspoken questions, I thought it was because something was wrong or lacking in me; that I was a big disappointment and that if I was a better daughter, then she would not have to be selfish with her love. I tried to find the way to “deserve her love.”

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Take the Good with the Bad or the Bad with the Good?

Why shouldn’t I share my recovery with the world? Why should I protect “their” reputations? Why is it wrong to talk about MY childhood and MY life? All my life I had been told to focus on the good things and forget the bad things. But the bad things seemed to rule my life, hiding in the dark under the surface of what appeared to be fine! The bad things didn’t leave me alone!

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Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship

    One of my mother’s complaints was always that my father was “the hero” in my eyes. She said that I never criticised him and I acted as though he was “perfect”; that he left our family and then he made a new life for himself, but that none of us kids ever found … Continue reading "Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship"

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My Teenage Son’s Point of View ~ Unintentional Teachings from his Father

Carla’s last post “Unintentional but Destructive ~Belief  System Inheritance” caused a bit of a stir on Carla’s personal profile page on facebook last week. Someone on her friends list took offence to her post and accused Carla of devaluing her father and being hurtful. My son is good friends with Carla and he stood up … Continue reading "My Teenage Son’s Point of View ~ Unintentional Teachings from his Father"

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