Estranged from my Mother ~ Still A Little Sadness on Mother’s Day

For the past few years I have not thought about myself as a daughter on “Mother’s day”, I have thought of myself as a mother instead. When I used to think of myself as a daughter the purpose of mother’s day was to celebrate someone who constantly reminded me that I was not the daughter … Continue reading "Estranged from my Mother ~ Still A Little Sadness on Mother’s Day"

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When a Mother says She is the Victim of her Adult Children

I received the following request from a reader through the contact page here in the Emerging from Broken website. “I was reading on your FB page about a post you had written about a year ago. It was about a “narcissistic mother” that demanded honor from her daughter. But I have a question for you; what … Continue reading "When a Mother says She is the Victim of her Adult Children"

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Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem

  “When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage. Over time, this type of abuse eats away at your self-confidence and sense of self-worth, undermining any … Continue reading "Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem"

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Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift

    The Ghost of Dysfunctional Christmas Past ~ Part 2 How come I could NEVER find the right gift for my Mother? I never seemed to be able to make her happy. My Christmas gifts  as well as any other gifts I found for her never had the desired effect one wants when giving … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Family Christmas and Giving the Wrong Gift"

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Domestic Violence Dream Triggers a Realization

It was as though I suddenly realized that her rants and rages had their foundation in her belief that I had hurt her perhaps on purpose; that I had actually “set out” to wreck things “for her” and that I had control over those things. I felt as though her disgust with me had to do with her false belief that I could make her world perfect if only I “wanted to”.

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I Vowed I Would Never be like my Selfish Unloving Mother

Somewhere along the line I decided that my needs would never come before others because that would mean that I was “like my mother” and in putting myself or my needs before anyone else would be showing those same signs of narcissism and since I had learned as a child that my needs didn’t matter, it was easy for me to stop listening to myself and discount my own needs. I was proud of myself for doing it! That decision represented the vow that I made not to be like my mother.

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