Giving and Receiving in a Healthy Relationship

 “It is only when we feel deprived that we resent giving to others. Self-care does not mean you stop caring about others; it just means you start caring more about you. Start thinking about yourself more and others less. Since you have a choice between taking care of someone else, or giving to yourself, try … Continue reading "Giving and Receiving in a Healthy Relationship"

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Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann

I am excited to welcome my friend and fellow truth seeker, Pam Witzemann back to Emerging from Broken.  Pam busts through the fog with this two part article about living under constant judgment and disapproval. Pam is a regular participant in almost all the discussions here in EFB and has her own blog; “Boomer Back-beat … Continue reading "Judgementalism: A Cloud of Disapproval and Condemnation by Pam Witzemann"

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A day in the Life of Darlene ~ Recognizing the Origin of Self Blame

“It wasn’t just that I didn’t know what I was feeling; I was also afraid to acknowledge my feelings in case they were wrong. Survival for me had become about making sure that I didn’t do or say the wrong thing”. Darlene Ouimet This morning my husband needed me to pick him up at one … Continue reading "A day in the Life of Darlene ~ Recognizing the Origin of Self Blame"

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How Children Become the Black Sheep of the Family

I adopted the guilt and shame as my own because I was living in the fog of someone else’s accusations and judgements about me and the actual truth got lost in that fog. The real truth took a back seat to the fabricated truth “they” told and not only to ME but to all those that had been “warned” about me way before I ever considered exposing the truth or considered how children come to be regarded as “the black sheep of the family”. Being groomed this way is very much like being framed.

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The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father

I have tried to talk to my father about the problems with our relationship since my first child was born over 20 years ago and although he pretends to listen to me, he never listens to me. I know this because he never tries to change anything about it. My father is emotionally unavailable. Not … Continue reading "The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father"

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What “Freedom Rocks” Means to Me by Lauralee Hunter Rivet

So I thought about how I could get rid of certain people in my life and out of my mind. The first thing that came to mind was the thought of tying a key to a rock and then throwing it in the river, lake, ocean or whatever body of water is close signifying closing the door and throwing away the key. Then I thought about pollution, so I dropped the key idea and am going to write on the rock the names of all the toxic people that I no longer want in my life and mind....

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To Confront or Not to Confront When Talking Does no Good

Navajo Proverb: You can’t wake a person who is pretending to be asleep. In the March Article “The Unheard Invisible Child; Being Seen and Finding my Voice” here in Emerging from Broken, a commenter asked a very popular question.  Here is the query; “Now that I’ve found my voice, I have this strong desire to … Continue reading "To Confront or Not to Confront When Talking Does no Good"

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