Brainwashing in Dysfunctional Family Systems and that deep down feeling of Unworthiness

Every so often I get a comment that I just have to share with everyone because it is so full of the truth that can help so many others. This is one such time! This comment from Doren came in on my article “Survival Mode and an Alternate view of Narcissism.” Doren has given me … Continue reading "Brainwashing in Dysfunctional Family Systems and that deep down feeling of Unworthiness"

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Understanding What Abuse IS and Recognizing Abusers

Abuse is a word that carries a whole lot of baggage. When most people think about “abusers” they think of wife beaters and people that take express anger violently against others, rapists, pedophiles – well you get the picture. But those are only the extreme definitions of what defines an abuser. When I didn’t know … Continue reading "Understanding What Abuse IS and Recognizing Abusers"

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The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father

I have tried to talk to my father about the problems with our relationship since my first child was born over 20 years ago and although he pretends to listen to me, he never listens to me. I know this because he never tries to change anything about it. My father is emotionally unavailable. Not … Continue reading "The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father"

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Dysfunctional Extended Family ~ The Mean Aunt that I Loved

My Aunt would often ignore me and shoot me dirty looks, as though my very existence was in her way. She gossiped and lied about me to the rest of the family. Living all my life in an “obligation system of love” I had to be grateful that she was allowing me to live with her. I had already been groomed to just be quiet and put up with it. Compliance is the dysfunctional family way.

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