Shifting My Thinking on the Journey to Overcoming Emotional Damage

I had to learn to shift my thinking in this process of overcoming the damage caused by emotional abuse. There were a few rather large shifts that I had to make in order to make progress and there was a process to shifting my thinking! It didn’t just happen overnight.  Instead of trying to understand … Continue reading "Shifting My Thinking on the Journey to Overcoming Emotional Damage"

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Giving and Receiving in a Healthy Relationship

 “It is only when we feel deprived that we resent giving to others. Self-care does not mean you stop caring about others; it just means you start caring more about you. Start thinking about yourself more and others less. Since you have a choice between taking care of someone else, or giving to yourself, try … Continue reading "Giving and Receiving in a Healthy Relationship"

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To Confront or Not to Confront When Talking Does no Good

Navajo Proverb: You can’t wake a person who is pretending to be asleep. In the March Article “The Unheard Invisible Child; Being Seen and Finding my Voice” here in Emerging from Broken, a commenter asked a very popular question.  Here is the query; “Now that I’ve found my voice, I have this strong desire to … Continue reading "To Confront or Not to Confront When Talking Does no Good"

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Victims can become the Biggest Abusers ~ The Cycle of Abuse

The sick dysfunctional family system seems to have “worked for their parents” so why wouldn’t it work for them? It was the best that my (dysfunctional) mother had to hope for, but only because she didn’t believe there might be something better. She accepted the reality of psychological abuse and dysfunctional family as “normal” and functional exactly as it was presented to her and the cycle of generational abuse continued.

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Self Esteem ~ How did YOU Learn YOUR Importance?

Eventually the child is expected to have self esteem and if they don’t there are a whole new set of labels assigned to them. BUT where do they get the self esteem and self value from in the first place? And if the adults in their lives fail to instill that sense of value in a childs life HOW does a grown up child change that misunderstanding? I tried affirmations and positive self talk for YEARS, without success until I discovered the foundation of my self esteem, and changed the lies that lived there.

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