How Children Become the Black Sheep of the Family

I adopted the guilt and shame as my own because I was living in the fog of someone else’s accusations and judgements about me and the actual truth got lost in that fog. The real truth took a back seat to the fabricated truth “they” told and not only to ME but to all those that had been “warned” about me way before I ever considered exposing the truth or considered how children come to be regarded as “the black sheep of the family”. Being groomed this way is very much like being framed.

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The Healing Power of Righteous Anger by Pam Witzemann

I saw all anger as being wrong and I denied my own angry feelings. I, like many people, was taught that all anger was inappropriate and I hid my angry emotional responses by stuffing my anger and being mad at myself for being angry. By the age of 12, I was very depressed and I believe, my stuffed and misdirected anger (which was rage, a mindless and destructive anger) was the underlying cause of my childhood depression.

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Take the Good with the Bad or the Bad with the Good?

Why shouldn’t I share my recovery with the world? Why should I protect “their” reputations? Why is it wrong to talk about MY childhood and MY life? All my life I had been told to focus on the good things and forget the bad things. But the bad things seemed to rule my life, hiding in the dark under the surface of what appeared to be fine! The bad things didn’t leave me alone!

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