Victim Blaming ~ When you are Blamed for the Core of Your Pain

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. … Continue reading "Victim Blaming ~ When you are Blamed for the Core of Your Pain"

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My Abusive Childhood Wasn’t that Bad because His was Worse

Sometimes people tell me that they don’t think they have a right to call what happened to them “abuse” or that they feel as though they don’t have a “right” to feel as though they had been wronged in childhood. And these feelings are common! I had them all too. It wasn’t “that bad” for me either. In fact even today when people write to me saying that they are grateful that their lives were not as bad as mine was and go on to tell me of their childhoods, my first reaction is “WHAT? You think what happened to me was worse than what happened to you!!”

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Understanding Depression Led to Facing Sexual Abuse by Tracie Nall

I am excited to have my friend and fellow writer Tracy Nall contributing to Emerging from Broken with her guest post on how her search for answers about depression led her to realizing that child sexual abuse was at the root. This article articulates how hard it is to tell someone and describes the setbacks, … Continue reading "Understanding Depression Led to Facing Sexual Abuse by Tracie Nall"

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“YOU’RE NOTHING BUT TROUBLE” by Fi Macleod

I went into the room where my grandparents and mother were. There were two paedophile friends in the room with them. There were 5 grownups in that room – my grandparents, mother and two paedophile friends of the family. None of those 5 grownups saw anything being wrong. Instead the impression was what was happening was ‘normal’, nothing was wrong, except for me, everything about me was “wrong” or so I was told often enough. So if I was surrounded by grownups who all thought nothing was wrong then I must be wrong to think it’s wrong.

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Evil Manipulative People and Emotional Damage

I had to learn to stop trying to understand evil manipulative people in favour of understanding what happened to me. It seemed easier to concentrate on the WHY questions about them, but I had to realize and acknowledge the damage and how it manifested in my belief system, so that I could overcome it. I had to do the opposite of what those pathetic adults did to me. I had to learn to consider myself.

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How Blame, Guilt and Shame get Misapplied to Self

The belief system that I am constantly speaking of does not form all at once or form completely from one event. This is where it gets complicated. Other events factor into it, some of them normal healthy childhood events that may have familiar feelings attached to them, and it is really easy to lump them … Continue reading "How Blame, Guilt and Shame get Misapplied to Self"

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Memoirs of a Mad Survivor by Patty Hite

Patty Hite I am pleased to have guest blogger Patty Hite from the website Overcoming Sexual Abuse writing  for Emerging  from Broken today.  We are continuing with a series of posts on the subject of anger in relation to abuse.  As always on this blog, please feel welcome to post your comments, thoughts and contributions.  … Continue reading "Memoirs of a Mad Survivor by Patty Hite"

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