Getting Unstuck on the Journey to Emotional Healing~ The Discussion

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How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships

I used to have a pattern (like a default way of responding) where I would give a lot more attention to the people who ‘fought me’ and told me I was wrong, compared to the way that I responded to people who agreed with me and validated my thoughts. I noticed that I actually tried … Continue reading "How I believed it was UP TO ME to Fix Problems in Relationships"

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Punishment as a Control Tactic in Abusive Family Systems

  Happy New Year! Welcome to a new year Emerging from Broken! I talk about the belief system and how it is developed and how we are brainwashed into believing that the problem is us in the first place. There are specific abuse tactics that are used to cement this brainwashing which cause the ‘fear … Continue reading "Punishment as a Control Tactic in Abusive Family Systems"

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On How to Become Your Own Best Friend

It was easy for me to reject myself the way that I had been rejected especially when it came to self-love. It was almost automatic for me to reject any affirmations that I tried to apply to myself about being worthy since I had never been approved of or validated before and since I believed that the failure was mine. I simply didn’t believe myself when I affirmed myself until I found out why I saw myself the way that I did in the first place.

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Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System

I decided to do a search on Google using the key words “belief system” and one of the first things that came up was the instruction to “challenge your belief system” (not much instruction on “how to do the how”) But one of the suggestions on challenging your belief system struck me as odd; it … Continue reading "Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System"

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Smile ~ An Example of Belief System Formation

Hearing this stuff made things far worse for me. Hearing their judgments increased my fear of being rejected and of being thrown away. Hearing this stuff confirmed that something WAS wrong with me, (just as I already suspected) and that I wasn’t good enough or worthy enough. If only I could just pretend to be happy and remember to smile. I couldn’t force myself to smile and that make me feel like a failure. My belief system was well on the way to cementing the self blame.

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