Toxic Mother Daughter Relationship and Oprah Winfrey’s Mother

This part of the quote in the statement “Oprah does not love her mother at all...She gives her a great deal financially but she does not give her the respect and affection a daughter should, and that bothers me.” ... well that Really bothers ME. Respect and affection? That phrase made me cringe. We are supposed to give our mothers affection? Why? Even if they beat us? Even if they sexually abuse us? Even if they disregard us as human beings and neglect our emotional health? This whole thing implies that being a daughter is a duty; that this “duty” has guidelines that need to be abided by or else you are NOT a good daughter.

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The Deadly Side of Accountability

Contemplating Freedom There are several really HOT topics when it comes to recovery. One of them is “accountability” I’m talking about the destructive practice of “self blame” that is disguised as the virtue of accountability. This week I posted the following update on the Emerging from Broken facebook page: “Recovery started with me. That alone … Continue reading "The Deadly Side of Accountability"

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I wasn’t Really Old Enough to Know Better

My last post “The Twisted Accountability Tactic & How it Works” caused a few comments using the phrase “old enough to know better” or “I should have known better”. This is an interesting expression; one that I beat myself up with for a very long time. I didn’t understand my choices or why I made … Continue reading "I wasn’t Really Old Enough to Know Better"

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