When Dad Enables Mom in Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships

This weekend some of us celebrate Father’s Day in some parts of the world including Canada and the United States. Father’s day can be a really tough time of year emotionally for many of us who have been raised in dysfunctional families or where we have been taught that love is proven (by children) through … Continue reading "When Dad Enables Mom in Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships"

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The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father

I have tried to talk to my father about the problems with our relationship since my first child was born over 20 years ago and although he pretends to listen to me, he never listens to me. I know this because he never tries to change anything about it. My father is emotionally unavailable. Not … Continue reading "The Deception of an Emotionally Unavailable Father"

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Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship

    One of my mother’s complaints was always that my father was “the hero” in my eyes. She said that I never criticised him and I acted as though he was “perfect”; that he left our family and then he made a new life for himself, but that none of us kids ever found … Continue reading "Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship"

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Unintentional but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance

Part Two At the heart of the devaluing belief system (click here to read Part One) is the lie that as human beings, we are not valuable in and of ourselves. We exist to be used by others. Our own desires aren’t important. Other people’s desires trump our own. Our feelings and thoughts can’t be … Continue reading "Unintentional but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance"

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Illusive but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance

It was so subtle. And I was entirely defenseless to protect myself from it. I had no reference point in my youngest years to be able to say, “Hey, believing this will play out badly for me in the future. I’m going to decide to believe differently.” It was what I naturally took to be … Continue reading "Illusive but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance"

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