The Day I got Tired of Being the Last Person that Mattered

Abusers will point at minor issues going down trails leading nowhere designed to confuse the situation in order to discredit you along the way enabling them to be right and to defend their actions and position of power and entitlement.” Darlene Ouimet The final straw is rarely the biggest issue and although the issue that … Continue reading "The Day I got Tired of Being the Last Person that Mattered"

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Explaining Parental Entitlement Beliefs in Dysfunctional Families

“In the minds of my parents, they are the victims; I am the abuser.” Christina Enevoldsen I began writing this blog post a few years ago inspired by the blog post on the Overcoming Sexual Abuse website “Exposing the Incest Family Secrets”. In this article Christina Enevoldsen shares about how her mother’s dismissive treatment of her … Continue reading "Explaining Parental Entitlement Beliefs in Dysfunctional Families"

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Do my Parents Have a Right to see My Children if They Don’t Love Me?

Why do we have to ask ourselves this question in the first place? If we were in loving relationship with our parents, we would not question whether or not it is a good idea to let our kids hang out with our parents. This article includes 5 questions you can ask yourself to help you bust through the fog and assist you in the decision making process.

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Tips on Getting Through Christmas and Family Dysfunction

I was originally going to title this post “Tips on Getting through Christmas Holidays when Family is an F Word” but I thought perhaps that would offend people who saw it here or in EFB Facebook so I amended the title, but I still wanted to share it with you because sometimes that is how I … Continue reading "Tips on Getting Through Christmas and Family Dysfunction"

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Is There Such a Thing as Justifiable Anger for Victims of Child Abuse?

    I posted the following quote on EFB Facebook and I was a little surprised by the response it triggered. “Abusive, controlling, entitled people and the people who are afraid of them will say almost anything to get you to shut up. They will label you as angry, hateful and unforgiving if you decide … Continue reading "Is There Such a Thing as Justifiable Anger for Victims of Child Abuse?"

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Going No Contact with Family of Origin and Guilt

Recently I received a question that I thought would make a really great blog post. The question was; “In relation to leaving or reducing contact with your “FOO” (which stands for Family of Origin) do you feel guilty about going no contact with your family of origin?” This is one of the most frequently asked … Continue reading "Going No Contact with Family of Origin and Guilt"

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Spiritual Abuse; When the name of God is used to Guilt and Shame

I get really angry when I think about the degree of spiritual abuse that is ‘out there’ and how victims are preached LIES about right and wrong and how the name of GOD is used to back up those lies.  It upsets me that the name of God is used to guilt and shame abuse … Continue reading "Spiritual Abuse; When the name of God is used to Guilt and Shame"

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When Dad Enables Mom in Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships

This weekend some of us celebrate Father’s Day in some parts of the world including Canada and the United States. Father’s day can be a really tough time of year emotionally for many of us who have been raised in dysfunctional families or where we have been taught that love is proven (by children) through … Continue reading "When Dad Enables Mom in Emotionally Abusive Family Relationships"

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